The road we have traveled is a road many others have also traveled, full of many twists, turns and major bumps. It is a road many others cannot understand and are fortunate not to have to take.
My daughter and my son, who has Fragile X Syndrome and Autism, were both victims of sexual abuse. As a mother suffering through this unbelievable nightmare, I witnessed the differences in the justice system of how my daughter was believed and treated so well, and my son was not. We quickly began to realize how difficult the road to justice is for an individual with a disability. We were made to feel as if what happened to my son did not matter. The current justice system is not equipped to handle these cases. It’s difficult enough to learn your child was sexually abused by someone you knew, and then you realize there is very little help for children like my son. The psychological effects on the victim and their family are insurmountable. It’s a mother’s worst nightmare. One you don’t wake up from.
I am also the survivor of domestic, emotional, verbal, psychological, financial and mental abuse from my first marriage. I spent 17 years in an abusive relationship/marriage. The abuse was so severe. He was an alcoholic, extremely narcissistic, controlling and full of anger. As a result, I have suffered greatly with tremendously low self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence in myself, and believing that I have never been good enough.
One morning, in 2018, crying on the floor, with a bottle of pills in my hand, ready to end my life, my husband found me, grabbed me and held me, scared out of his mind at seeing how all of this was affecting me. At that moment, I made a promise and a decision that I was going to get through everything. I knew deep inside I had so much to live for - my two beautiful children and my amazing husband, the love of my life. I wasn’t going to let the past ruin my future anymore!
Over time, I thought that I had healed from this painful journey, but little did I know how much more healing I had to do until I began writing my story. I published my first book, Finding Myself, Overcoming Abuse, Heartbreak and Loss Then Finding True Love, in 2021.
The road to justice and healing is a very long road. Unfortunately, many others give up on it because it is so difficult and defeating at times. I wanted to share what I have learned with others to encourage them not to give up, to keep moving forward, no matter how long things may take.
As I wrote my story, it brought back extremely painful memories of the abuse I endured, that was so deeply buried. At times I struggled to continue to write, but I realized that reliving these horrible memories is how I could heal and find closure.
I am choosing to share my personal story of the years of abuse and survival, and the difficult road of my recovery. Because these things are real issues we face as a society, more than we know, more than people talk about.
In my second book, I share how I hit rock bottom dealing with severe depression and anxiety, almost ending my life one morning because of the amount of stress and the lack of support I had. I am not ashamed of my past. I never wanted to relive it, but I’ve grown from all these adversities to become the strong woman I am today.
This has not been an easy road but I have chosen to use all the negative experiences I have encountered in my life to overcome adversity to help empower others.
I hope my story, strength, bravery, persistence, courage and determination will inspire someone else to keep going and never give up.
We get one shot at this life...we need to live the life we want to live.
For the past 16 years, I have dedicated my time to volunteering for various non-profit and community organizations, including; The Polycystic Kidney Foundation (PKD); Fragile X Alliance of Ohio; Trials for Hope and The Children's Center of Medina County, to name a few.
Currently, I serve on the Ohio Attorney General Committee for Crime Victims with Disabilities and I am also a DS-Ambassador for the National Down Syndrome Society. (DS-Ambassadors are volunteer advocates of all abilities committed to taking part in the democratic process and serving as liaisons between NDSS and their congressional delegations. The overarching goal of the program is to build long-lasting relationships with your elected officials at the federal, state and local level of government to continually raise awareness, educate and advocate for public policy solutions that benefit the Down syndrome community.)
My daughter Maci and I founded Voices of Change 2018 (VOC18), to advocate, create awareness and educate for prevention to reduce the risk of abuse for children with disabilities.
We are the voice and we will help other individuals and families find their voice. So many changes need to be made to reduce the risk of children with disabilities from being abused. We need to remove the stigma and begin engaging in conversations to move forward, putting an end to this epidemic.
I graduated Magna Cum Laude, with a Bachelor's Degree in Health Service Administration and have over 25 years of experience in corporate, non-profit and healthcare environments as an Admissions, Development and Executive Director.
I am a first-time author of Finding Myself, Overcoming Abuse, Heartbreak and Loss Then, Finding True Love. Available on Amazon.com and on www.nicolemoehring.org.
In May 2021, I was honored to receive the Crucial Point Award. An annual award given to people and organizations that delve beyond the surface of sex crimes to focus on overlooked niches of survivorship. They then bring these specific topics to mainstream platforms to increase public awareness and effectively drive social change. Winners of this award demonstrate a clear understanding of the specific needs of the sexual assault and abuse survivorship community and help implement real solutions.
I reside in Hinckley, Ohio with my husband, Chris and my two children.